Thursday @ practice

I finally immersed myself into something that made me feel joyous!
Then there was a back and forth.
I was told that what I said was snide and it shocked me. I couldn't understand why i was being misinterpreted. I asked for clarification because I honestly did not understand. I began to cry after I apologized to the party's involved and was left to cry, confused and at a loss. Im easily offended when others refer to me as dishonest or malicious. I pride myself on my capacity to be loveing and understanding.
I had to look up 'snide' when i got home because i thought maybe i remembered the definition wrong.
Snide: Main Entry: snide Pronunciation: \ˈsnīd\Function: adjective Etymology: origin unknown Date: circa 1859 1 a : FALSE, COUNTERFEIT b : practicing deception : DISHONEST <a snide merchant> 2 : unworthy of esteem : LOW <a snide trick> 3 : slyly disparaging : INSINUATING <snide remarks> — snide·ly adverb — snide·ness noun
Thats what i remembered the definition as and the realization that someone thinks of me in these terms sincerely breaks my heart. Im so very hurt and sad that the love for my team and all the hard work and effort i've put in is being seen as anything less.
I was excited and more happy than i've been in a long time to be doing something beneficial and to have it end on such a sour note has floored me.
I have very direct, business like approach to things and i feel that 'candy coating' things is disrespectful as it insinuates that the person i am speaking with is incapable of handling direct communication.
I have tried in the past to take a softer approach and was met with resistance. I try a direct approach and am met with resistance. Its become very frustrating (and im sure it shows) and the long and short of it is that no matter how i approach issues, the fact that im addressing an issue that no one else wants to deal with or does nothing about will always be met with resistance. Im very much done helping where my help is unwanted.